At the ultrasound on March 8th when we were introduced to the possibility of chromosomal abnormalities the doctor asked us if the baby had a name. Normally we come up with fifty different lists and once the baby is born we stare at him (or her) for a while and try and figure out what name is the most fitting. In this case, once we knew for sure that our baby girl had Trisomy 18, the doctors explained that could mean very likely that she may not survive to term.
We came to realize that this pregnancy, baby swishing around in my tummy, may be the only time we get with her and we wanted to connect with her as soon as possible. We chose the name Maya Grace for our baby girl. Maya just sounded so happy and one of the definitions is goddess of spring which just seemed so perfect. A friend of mine brought a gift of tulips (one of my favorite flowers) and mentioned how if we planted the bulbs they would come back the next year, and although I have understood that tulips don't last very long, they are very beautiful. I decided that wherever we live we will plant Maya tulips to enjoy each spring. Grace is my great grandmother's name and I have felt a connection with her despite never actually meeting her in person. We also felt connected with the name Grace because it is by the grace of God that we are made better people. And gosh despite all of my faults and weaknesses being revealed all at once, it is my hope to be a better person and a stronger family because of Maya.
Our latest pictures of Maya baby:) Oh how I love to look at these!
The doctor also gave us the idea of celebrating Maya's milestones even before birth (like every week when I get those "your baby is the size of a..." email. So we decided to have a cake in her honor for one of those such weeks.
(Note the "M" cake behind the insane boys).